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Isn’t it Romantic?

18 Feb Romance

With the success and controversy surrounding pop culture hits like Fifty Shades of Gray – I once heard someone say that if Christian Gray lived in a trailer and worked at McDonalds, it wouldn’t be a romance novel but an episode of Dateline – one has to ask, is romance dead? Or better yet, is it still important?

How do you keep romance alive and well in your relationship? Here’s some advice from the experts (and happily it doesn’t involve a sexual contract or pain, unless of course that’s your thing!)

1) Date night – As simple as it sounds, making alone time for each other at least once a week is a great way to reconnect and remember what you love about your significant other. Sure, you always read this little gem of advice in online articles and magazines, but do you do it?

Between kids, work demands, and keeping a household running this is surprisingly hard to accomplish!

Start small – aim for a date night out of the house once a month and schedule other stay-at-home “date nights” once a week, like watching a movie together or sharing a late-night dessert.

2) Evaluate your appearance – Yes, your partner loves you just the way you are, but if you want to up the romance factor then pretend you’re still in the dating stage again and dress accordingly.
Style your hair in a new way or an old favorite. Freshen your makeup before you see each other at the end of the day. Cook dinner in your sexy plus size lingerie instead of your standby yoga pants. Buy new underwear.

Seriously.  A little glimpse of something new, sexy and exotic showcasing your curvy assets before the work day begins will make him ready to come home, and you’ll feel like a whole new woman, too.

3) Communication is key – You can’t expect each other to be mind readers. Communicate what you want from your significant other and ask him to do the same.

I have a friend who owns mostly ‘ladylike’ lingerie, and one day her husband asked her to purchase a corset and garter belt because he had a fantasy of her in something more risqué.

So, don’t be afraid to break out of your comfort zone or ask him to! It’s a risk worth taking!